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cream_and_custard) wrote2022-05-27 11:33 pm
cream_and_custard) wrote2022-05-27 11:33 pm
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My bf was explaining to me that sometimes people wait to have sex before they get married so they can know each other better.
That seems silly to me because you can
A. Still get to know them while having sex
B. and also, by not having sex you are excluding knowledge about them (whether you enjoy sex with them)
But I understand everyone is different. Maybe someone can't date without having the sex take over in a way they think negatively affects them. That doesn't mean it has to be until marriage though? Why not a year? Is that not enough? I think Waiting till marriage would also incentivize getting married quickly which could lead to divorce(divorce rates being something he brought up).
That seems silly to me because you can
A. Still get to know them while having sex
B. and also, by not having sex you are excluding knowledge about them (whether you enjoy sex with them)
But I understand everyone is different. Maybe someone can't date without having the sex take over in a way they think negatively affects them. That doesn't mean it has to be until marriage though? Why not a year? Is that not enough? I think Waiting till marriage would also incentivize getting married quickly which could lead to divorce(divorce rates being something he brought up).