Everyone's too serious about romance

[cream_and_custard]

Has it always been this way and I'm just to young to know, or is this a knew development? People older than me reading this, I would like you to weigh in!

I feel like everyone's really serious about your post break up feelings for your ex. I can't even joke "Oh if we had met ---- it would have worked out ^^" Without getting yelled at kinda aggressively?? And grouped in with a bunch of other annoying friends who's relationships had shrapnel that hit people outside themselves!? It's kind of infuriating lol.

I really don't get it, like I just have a hang up on someone, and I don't really drag anyone else into it, I'm not scheming to get back together, I'm not delusional about what's healthy for me or reasonable. I know we'll never get back together, I know I'd like to but wouldn't even if offered, I know I can't bother him. I'm not doing anything wrong to hurt myself or him. I'm very reasonable compared to a lot of people I know.

At most I'm annoying because I'm repetitive, but I hate being treated like someone worthy of being berated or stupid. I think maybe people around me think I'm stupid because they can't take a joke. I have alot of love left in my heart and I like to poke fun at my own intensity. Shutting up about it would only paint an appealing appearance of indifference for others.

I feel no need to dickride having a healthy mind when my current thoughts are no harm to me or him, merely annoying. Especially not for people that have never been in this situation. God, so fucking annoying. Even if it was unhealthy, most people are willing to indulge a little...